13 June 2014

A feminist and the church: a love story?

Random thing I've been thinking about lately: If my church and I were in a relationship would it work out? I want to clarify that I'm not talking about the gospel, I'm just talking about the day-to-day culture with which I have a love-hate relationship.

I have this book that talks about Myers-Briggs types and relationships between them, which is totally unscientific, I know, but it's entertaining. So, a couple of months ago I decided the institutional church seems to me like an ESFJ (I know, totally subjective). I looked up how ESFJs and INFJs (my type) interact and it was like seeing my whole relationship with the church summarized before my eyes.

The things we have in common are all the things I really love about the church.  The anthropomorphized church and I are both caring and eager to please. We strive for harmony in relationships. We like things to be organized and to have things planned and settled. INFJs are attracted to ESFJ because of their high energy, willingness to help other people, and natural friendliness. ESFJs help their partners participate more fully in the world and become more optimistic about the future. INFJs help ESFJs think about the far-reaching implications of their actions and become more open to new approaches to old problems.

And then there are the struggles... "ESFJs and INFJs have fundamentally different temperaments. Most ESFJs are much more traditional and conservative than their partners and most INFJs are more introspective and philosophical. So ESFJs feel frustrated that their partners... endlessly question how things might be better or more meaningful. ESFJs don't like change and find it unsettling when their partners fantasize about lifestyles ESFJs don't think are realistic or practical. ESFJs prefer to maintain the status quo, and since they feel strongly about almost everything, they can be a bit rigid about the right way to do things. INFJs also tend to hold strong beliefs and often take a moral position about the way things ought to be. These two highly opinionated types may find themselves at odds, especially if their strongly held values are in conflict, and they may find themselves pushing their individual agendas to the detriment of their relationships." Yep.

"Finally, ESFJs and INFJs often have different needs for social stimulation. ESFJs are very active, busy people who tend to have lots of friends and to get involved in a variety of outside activities. INFJs need much more time alone and prefer to maintain a smaller group of close, trusted friends. ESFJs are sometimes frustrated when they feel that their partners are resisting their efforts to participate in social activities, and INFJs often feel overwhelmed and exhausted by the whirlwind of activity. INFJs prefer more intimate, one-on-one interactions and like to discuss things in depth." Yep again.

Anyway, that explained a lot. And I decided that I can make it work if I don't feel like I have to agree with everything the church does, and I don't have to attend every single activity planned. I can appreciate the church for the good things that it brings into my life, and supplement with other things in the areas where we're just different. We might need therapy occasionally but I'm optimistic. And I'm not planning on leaving unless it throws my suitcases out on the lawn.

14 October 2010

Genealogy Post

Sorry about this everyone, but I think it's the best place to put stuff so it's searchable.

On our way home from our Bear Lake camping trip we stopped in Coalville where Andrew's Salmon ancestors lived.

This is the LDS church in Coalville, Andrew's ancestor was a bishop for a long time in Coalville, but the church he attended has since been torn down and replaced by this one.

This is the stained glass window taken from the original church.

And a plaque about the original tabernacle that reads:
"Site of the original Summit Stake Tabernacle 1879-1971.
Soon after the Summit Stake was organized on July 9, 1877, it was decided that a tabernacle should be built. Thomas L. Allen was appointed architect and builder, and the plans for the building were approved by Church architect Truman O. Angell. Ground was broken in the spring of 1879, with the cornerstone being laid by Apostle Franklin D. Richards on Aug. 7, 1879. Construction of the tabernacle included 600,000 locally made bricks and 75,000 feet of lumber. Oregon red pine and native lumber from Echo Canyon were used, and sandstone came from the Coalville ledge quarry. Painters and artists for the building were Anthony Olsen and his son Christian M. Olsen. Gothic stained-glass windows were imported from Belgium. The tabernacle was dedicated on May 14, 1899 by President Lorenzo Snow. Seventy-two years later, on March 3, 1971, the building was razed. Stained-glass windows and portraits of Church leaders were preserved and can be viewed in the present stake center. The tabernacle and the stake center that currently resides on this location were built by members of the Church through their faith and testimony of the restored gospel of Jesus Christ.

This plaque was placed September 17, 2005.

I'm not sure what this is, I'm guessing City Hall?

Wilford J. Salmon 1894 - 1894

Lusty - Elizabeth S. 1845 - 1931 and Charles J. 1844-1930 and May Jennie Amy

Robert Salmon Born 27 Apr 1812 - Died 9 Feb 1891
Mary Weir Salmon Born 22 Sep 1812 Died 18 July 1853 (Barrhead, Scotland)
Mary Hannah Salmon Born 27 Apr 1823 Died 22 July 1887 (Coalville, Ut.)

James Salmon Apr. 21 1834 - Oct. 14 1923

Our Loved Ones

As Mother thou wert blest.
A sympathetic comforter to the distressed.

Brother thou wert a true and loyal son.
A brother indeed to every one.

Lucille Salmon Nelson
Nov. 30, 1901 - Jan 15. 1990

Emma J. Salmon Nov. 9, 1869 - May 26, 1954

James Salmon Apr. 21, 1834 - Oct. 14, 1923

Margaret R. Aug 8 1838 - July 20 1888
Robert R. Oct. 23 1859 - Nov. 15 1887
I think these are the people of whom the earlier poem was written.

(Salmon) William 1864 - 1943

(Salmon) Agnes 1872 - 1958

Franklin R. Salmon - Utah - 1 Sgt. 362 Inf. - 91 Div. - March 25 1937

Salmon - Mother Sarah A. W. 1867 - 1936
- Father Franklin D. 1867 - 1941

IVIE - Dau. of F. & S. Salmon Nov. 30, 1895 - Jan. 5, 1900

A lazy mom's guide to meal planning

I've been doing this for 3 or 4 months now and I think I'm in love. It's saved me so many hours of time that I can use to do something enjoyable instead of getting a headache about meal plans. If you love cooking creatively, or if you're the type who hates reading the directions or sewing from a pattern this method is probably not for you. If you want something healthy, cheap and fast with as little effort as possible you might like it.

I said to myself "Self, why don't you accept the fact that a big part of your work is as a glorified lunch lady and copy the professionals." I thought of the old school lunch calendars my mom used to post on the fridge, that repeated every two weeks. I've been doing Sparkpeople for several years now and used their free meal plans as a starting point. I've figured out that Andrew and I and Lucy eat about the same amount of food, Benjamin eats about half of that, so I plan for three people, it's about 1600 calories per day. I wrote down all the meals that I would actually consider eating, substituting things I hardly ever buy, like cantaloupe, for things like bananas. This gave me about 15 breakfasts and 15 lunches to work with and maybe 20 dinners.

This is where it gets a little wonkish. I had made an Excel spreadsheet and had been keeping track of the price of things that I buy regularly, and figured out the lowest and highest cost per serving that I typically pay for each item. Using a little "lookup function" wizardry I pretty quickly came up with the cost I would pay for each meal if I got the items on sale. Then I picked out the seven cheapest breakfasts and lunches, and the fourteen cheapest dinners. I made a menu repeating breakfasts and lunches every week and dinners every two weeks, I was worried that we would get tired of them after a while, but we really haven't.

The beauty of this system is that I NEVER have to think about what to make, for any of our meals. I know exactly how much we're going to eat and can shop accordingly, which drastically cuts down on the amount of wasted food. Of course there are days when we eat more or less, but I'm surprised at how it usually evens out by the end of the week. I can cook food, for example rice, ahead and then freeze it in 1 1/2 cup portions which is the exact amount I use for all my recipes involving rice. I do a big shopping trip every two weeks where I buy all the nonperishable and frozen stuff that we'll need for the next two weeks, as well as stock up on anything that's a really good sale. Then every other week I just need to do a quick run for produce, milk and any other random thing we need. If a store is having a case lot sale on something I just multiply the amount on my list by 6 or 12 and I have a 3 or 6 month supply.

The breakfasts are all less than 50 cents per person, the lunches except one are less than 1 dollar per person, and the dinners are between $1.20 and $2.10 per person. We make our own bread, so you'll have to add that to the list if you don't. And I usually get some snacks for the kids that vary by week.

Here are the documents if you want the nitty gritty
Menu plan
Grocery list

20 September 2010

My dream house

I've been dreaming about how I want to decorate my house one day many, many years from now, when we finally buy a house.

Here's a little tour:

The living room (but I would use darker wood)

The kitchen

The bathroom

The bedroom

I think I would call it Swedish country style, but a little more modern.

21 June 2010

Andrew's trip to D.C.

Andrew went to Virginia for a conference at the beginning of this month, he was giving a talk on his paper that was published a little while ago. On his last day there he took a taxi to Washington D.C. and took a little tour before heading to the airport. He took some cool pictures, and I'm very jealous, I think I could spend a month there in all the museums.

The White House, the guy on the roof is a sniper.

The U.S. capitol building

Ford's Theater where Lincoln was assassinated.

Pennsylvania Ave., the White House is just down the street.

Benjamin's first haircut and Andrew's birthday

Lucy worked very hard going to the potty so she could get 8 stickers and earn her garden shovels. She was so happy when she finally had enough stickers! The diaper-less method worked for us, and now she rarely has an accident. Hooray! I was seriously doubting whether this day would ever come, and then she was just ready and it was pretty easy.

Lucy at Baby Animal Days at This is the Place park.

Benjamin loved the little pigs, he followed them everywhere.

Lucy and her first pony ride ever. She wanted to go last year, but it was a little too scary. This year she hopped right on and loved it. She still remembers the name of her pony.

Grandma Oler getting into trouble again

Benjamin right after his first haircut. It took us forever because we didn't know what we were doing, and he was very patient with us.

Lucy's curly hair. I don't know where it came from, I don't really know what to do with it. I've finally figured out that I can NEVER brush it. I can comb it while it's wet, I usually need to put in a leave-in conditioner so I can get a comb through it, and then it's hands off unless I want it to be a frizzy poofy mess. Once she sleeps on it I have to spray it all down to tame it again. Since I figured all that out I think it's looked a whole lot better.

Andrew on his 29th birthday! He's the greatest husband and father ever and I'm so glad he's ours!!

Andrew's cake with whipped cream and pineapple frosting.

Lucy and her Grandma Oler